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Kansas is not a State that is very tolerant to any other option but heterosexuality. Kansas even has a gay and lesbian community that is still not very educated to understand Bisexuality. So as a people we should educate ourselves to become tolerant to individual lifestyle.

Bisexuality may be a difficult topic to comprehend. Many of us are taught to look at almost everything in the universe as a duality: male and female, light and dark, hot an cold, moral and immoral, etc. This is also seen in the area of human sexual orientation. Most view it as existing in two forms: heterosexuality and homosexuality. But  human sexuality is a little more complex than that. One cannot squeeze the full range of human sexual feelings and behaviors into only two classifications. A minimum of three is really needed to represent human sexual attractions and activities: heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual.

Depending upon who is writing or talking, "bisexuality" may be defined in many different ways. Five important ones are described below:

  Most people use the term "sexual orientation" to refer to sexual feelings. Heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual is a part of what people are. Thus, bisexuality is sexual orientation in which an individual has feelings of sexual attraction to both men and women, although not necessarily to the same degree.
  Conservative Christians and their faith groups often assign different meanings and definitions to some religious and human sexuality terms. They typically refer to sexual behavior when they are discussing "sexual orientation." Heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality then become people do. Thus, bisexuality becomes a "lifestyle" in which an individual engages in sexual behavior with both men and women.
  Others restrict the term bisexual to a person who not only has feelings of attraction to both men and women, but for whom "bisexuality is [also] an important part of their experience or identity." 1
  Still others define bisexuality as either feelings of sexual attraction, or sexual behavior towards, both men and women. 2
  According to the Soc.bi newsgroup, some suggest "that the word 'bisexual' should be limited to describing behaviour, and the word 'bi' could be used for describing identity."
  Some bisexuals (i.e. persons who are attracted to both men and women) feel more strongly attracted to one gender than the other. They may identify themselves as homosexual or heterosexual, depending upon their prime attraction. So, a bisexual who feels more attracted to members of the same sex might identify themselves as gay or lesbian rather than bisexual. Others, attracted to members of the opposite sex might view themselves as heterosexual.
  In an attempt to codify sexual attraction for the two genders, human sexuality researcher Alfred Kinsey developed a seven level rating scale in which "0" meant purely heterosexual and "6" meant purely homosexual. The vast majority of adults rate themselves as a "0." A gay and lesbian minority identify themselves as a "6". Only a very small minority say that they are bisexual (1 to 5). 3

Bisexuality, viewed in terms of feelings of sexual attraction:

To many gays, lesbians, bisexuals, physicians, psychologists, psychiatrists, human sexuality researchers, religious liberals, and some others, the term "sexual orientation" normally defines which gender(s) an individual is sexually attracted to:

  A heterosexual is attracted to persons of the opposite gender only;
  A homosexual, to the same gender; 
  A bisexual to both genders, although not necessarily to the same degree. 

They believe that all three sexual orientations are normal and natural for at least a minority of the population. An adult's orientation is not consciously chosen. It is not changeable through prayer, therapy, surgical intervention, etc.

Bisexuality describes how people feel, not necessarily how they act: 

  A person can feel attractions to both men and women, decide to remain celibate, and still be considered a bisexual by themselves and others. 
  A bisexual might make a conscious decision to confine their sexual activity to person(s) of one gender and still be considered a bisexual by themselves and others. Lableing is not a good idea, although we need to except and be tolerant.

References used in the above essay:

  1. Albert Lunde, "Bisexuality notes," at: http://www.ssmu.mcgill.ca/queer/info/
  2. The Usenet Soc.bi newsgroup has a FAQ list at: http://www.serf.org/~jon/soc.bi/faq/ 
  3. "Kinsey's heterosexual-homosexual rating scale," at: http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/originalsite/ak-hhscale.html
  4. "Humorous quotes attributed to Woody Allen," at: http://www.geocities.com/gunjansaraf/woody.htm 
  5. Lynn Schultz-Writsel, "'Reparative' Therapy: Does it work?", 2000-FEB, at: http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2000-02/APA-tdiw-0302100.php
  6. Senator Don Nickles, ENDA debate in the U.S. Senate, 1996-SEP-10.
  7. Richard C. Sparks, "Contemporary Christian Morality: Real Questions; Candid Responses," Crossroad Publishing, (1997), Pages 74 & 75.
  8. http://bi.org/ 
  9. http://www.bisexual.org
  10. http://www.binetusa.org/About.html
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